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u/Confident_Boss2081 17h ago
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u/Strong-Set6544 15h ago
Tbf if you’re rich you have the luxury of dating down for whatever you’re looking for. And the less financially secure you are, the more you’ll be enticed by wealth.
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u/HawkHarder 16h ago
(due to certain personal reasons) what that you like money?
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u/Morkhant 16h ago
Hey… I like money… r/idiocracy
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u/Scudmiss 17h ago
The “do to personal reasons” qualifier is my favorite part
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u/Super_boredom138 16h ago
Its like there's somehow still a lack of self awareness in a rather blatant confession
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u/metalshoes 16h ago
No, you see I have a note from my mother that says I don’t have to date poor people.
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u/gottagouda 15h ago
I dont date ugly people "due to personal reasons", you know... because they are ugly
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u/headermargin 16h ago
"I don't believe in bettering myself, nor do I have faith in others to do so alongside me"
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u/Feeling-Bird-4894 15h ago
Perhaps you're being too quick to judge whilst lacking all the information necessary to do so. Maybe OP was struggling with money at the time and the reason why they didn't want to start a relationship with someone else who's also struggling with money is simply because starting a family or even so much as anything together really often requires much more money, if they're both already struggling on their own they'll probably be struggling even more together, especially if you add a child to the equation. If that's the case, which again we can't say for sure, then if you ask me, I think OP did the right or at least the sensible thing.
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u/3superfrank 15h ago
In other words, maybe she wants what she herself can't afford, and wants to be a gold-digger to get what she can't afford!
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u/OrkWAAGHBoss 15h ago edited 15h ago
Sounds like the brokie should go stay in her lane, then. Maybe better herself, get her money up, so she won't be a burden to he potential partners.
You have to hold people accountable on such topics, you can't have a stupid, Disney mindset about relationships. Society suffers otherwise. Divorce rates are almost 50/50, clearly people need to be advised, not telling people who is and is not a good idea to be with is sub-sentient, sub-evolved, animal behavior. It's also incredibly anti-social.
Furthermore, it's a societal double standard. Modern women want to have ALL the expectations in the world, but demand in the name of "freedom" that they be held accountable to no one's expectations. This is ignorant, childish behavior, and should be publicly ridiculed as such, just as this post is doing.
Never settle, folks, a human who can't perform minimum societal functions is not an adult, it doesn't matter what age is on their ID. Some children take a few decades to grow up, some never do.
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u/Feeling-Bird-4894 15h ago
I don't know, I don't think it's up to us to decide for people what they should do with their lives or who they should be with.
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u/urine-monkey 17h ago
Personal reason: I never grew out of my princess phase and expect real life to be a Disney movie.
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u/Ok_Jaguar8209 16h ago
Ok princess so what do you bring to the table or how do you make the guy feel like a Prince?
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u/tnbeastzy 16h ago
If the woman brings beauty, love and a cheerful personality, she doesn't need to bring anything else for me.
I'd be more than happy to spoil her. She can be the homemaker.
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u/Unfair_Mail_5445 16h ago
You’ve missed the point so remarkably it’s impressive
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u/tnbeastzy 16h ago
My point was that a woman doesn't need to bring anything tangible to the table tbh.
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u/metalshoes 16h ago
What if she’s sterile and can’t cook
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u/Aggressive-Expert-69 15h ago
Shouldn't matter. Neither of those were on the short list of requirements for that guy to be financially submissive to a woman lol
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u/__Patrick_Basedman_ 16h ago
It’s hilarious because under no circumstances does broke mean you cannot date somebody. You can be in love with a person and date even if y’all both don’t have money. Obviously starting a life is a different story but being less wealthy doesn’t mean anything. So she basically just said she’s very materialistic and shallow
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u/Acceptable-Ticket743 15h ago
I agree. I think starting a life together with someone might be difficult if y'all are both really poor. However, this doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't date someone who is broke. If you are trying to pay off a bunch of medical bills, then I could see someone not wanting to start their life with a person who need's financial support. With that said, dating a person, and financially supporting them are not always hand and hand. Whether someone is worth dating, is really not something where money plays a role.
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u/RevolutionaryRough96 16h ago
"But i have a vagina,so its different "
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u/Jordan_1424 16h ago
Incel?
It's a commonly accepted double standard.
Tell people you're a stay at home dad you get side eyes. Tell people you're a stay at home mom and it's a blessing.
Even in an age where both partners typically work, if the man makes less or can't provide they are still looked down upon.
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u/ConorOdin 16h ago
There is no double standard we are all just incels /s
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u/Alarmed_Ask9672 15h ago
double standard does not justify the violence against women in the post re having a vagina = different rules
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u/Alarmed_Ask9672 16h ago
go join 4chan incel group dude
or you could reconsider the history of gender inequality a little bit before you start playing the victim
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u/Intrepid-Constant-34 15h ago
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u/Alarmed_Ask9672 15h ago
kid... maybe re-assess your rage issues if you ever want a relationship w a woman (or w anyone). Calling someone out for "having a vagina" is straight up toxic masculinity very ugly flexing
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u/OrkWAAGHBoss 15h ago
The broker the woman, the more entitled she is. Broke men get told to make something of themselves, broke women just get told to find a man who made something of himself. Leeches, lol.
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u/JavierBermudezPrado 16h ago
I hope they were on a date at a real nice place. And I hope he "went to the bathroom" and dipped.
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u/FictionalContext 16h ago edited 6h ago
I see this reposted a lot, but there's a world of strife difference between dating someone who's really struggling to get by and dating someone who's getting by just fine but just isn't as wealthy as you.
Dating (at least dating for marriage) isn't something you do when you're struggling if you ever wanna quit struggling. It's what you do when you got your life squared away and are ready to take the next step.
Edit: I know, I know, but then wamman ain't stupid gold digger and we can't have that, right fellas?
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u/josey__wales 15h ago
I see the wisdom in getting your life set up first, that’s a good thing to do.
But also dating seriously will often help both parties, so I can’t agree entirely. Two incomes going into one household is a major step up. It can be the reason you both quit struggling.
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u/ForsakenCakeStar 15h ago
Thank you. That take is super classist, most of the world is in poverty and for most of history partnering up was a way to survive together.
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u/asobalife 16h ago
Not to a rich person lol
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u/FictionalContext 16h ago
99% of the world is "can't afford to take a yearly overseas vacation" struggling.
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u/guyincognito121 15h ago
Yeah. Given that he prefaced out with "to me", I'm assuming that she's doing well enough to take care of herself, and could even be reasonably successful. So she's not necessarily looking for a meal ticket; she just doesn't want to be one herself.
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u/YesImDavid 16h ago
I never understood why people are against this, if someone isn’t okay with dating someone that’s struggling then that’s A-okay. Why shouldn’t they care about the persons life and how they operate?
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u/Weekly-Reply-6739 15h ago
Imma say this as the devils advocate
Personal reasons could be similar to my own reasons for not wanting to date a needy or struggling woman.
1) People who struggle tend to be more needy, transaction, and more objectifying (this usually is in the manner of believing they need the other person or loving them for what they do/provide)
2) People who tend to struggle also tend to be more agressive and controling (the possesivness of a needy person who wants to keep there tool (relationship) around and secure
3) People who tend to struggle may struggle to respect boundaries or understand the person who isn't striggling
4) struggling people are often all work and no play/rest. (Codependency is an awful thing to experience or deal with, its even worse when they are codependent on you, as its like seeing a drug addict addicted to the drug and wanting you to give them there drug, and that drug is you)
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I would be friends with and help the struggling person grow, but I would not date them, as doing so is setting them up for failure as they aren't ready for a relationship with someone like me, as I want an equal, and they are not ready for that kind of treatment, as they would feel unseen, unheard, and neglected.
Would I date the person after they grew, maybe.
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u/Irrelevant_Jackass 16h ago
I really think this one (horrendously reposted) is quite apt. But I do think it’s very American - where the divide between rich and poor is so huge.
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